Sensitive Mean People

While their hatred may be concealed by trickery, their wrongdoing will be exposed in public. ~ Proverbs 26:26

It becomes frustrating when grown people will not act like adults AND when people constantly treat others in a demeaning and negative fashion, but are the most sensitive when those same actions are reciprocated. How do you play victim to those things that you have been on the offending end of!?  Recently, on my personal Facebook page I posted the following status:

“The worst thing that you can do to me is throw back into my face what you have done for me or hold over my head what I need you to do for me. All it does is express piss poor character. It DOES NOT stop me from progressing toward taking care of business. This is one reason why I dislike asking people for anything. #OhWell Next...pressing play on my playlist. :-)”

I had a long day and having someone throw into my face on THAT day what I needed, upset me and truly pissed me off.  I addressed the issue with that person via phone call and flew to my status to express as is asked “What’s on your mind?”  I can’t monitor every single moment of the day what an individual has to say about me.  If I am doing well or if I am doing poorly, someone will have something to say.  I will NOT, however, be responsible because someone has this nerve racking notion that the status was or is about them.  It only proves that those individuals ran out into traffic and were hit by a vehicle. *roof roof*

My discovery and learning experience in dealing with these types of people is that that they are mean spirited, but the most sensitive individuals that you will ever meet.  Sometimes it makes me feel bad and hardens my heart because these same folks have no idea of how their personality is reflected towards the people that love them and in public with complete strangers.  Here is what I do not like: 

 The 5 Acts

1.      When people make the assumption that my status is about them and fail to pick up a telephone to call me and inquire.

2.      When people take to their status in reply to my status, therefore, talking to me and about me in 3^rd person.  I don’t do 3^rd person talking about me.  You may want to ask close friends that have fallen victim to me addressing this.

3.      When people try to play off that everything is kosher and cool between them and I, when in all actuality they really can’t stand me…at all! LMBO!

4.      When people get upset and extremely defensive about me sharing their “ugly” truth with them to their face and not behind their back as others have done.

5.      When people ATTEMPT to be cheeky with me by being nice/nasty.  Newsflash: I speak nice/nasty fluently. *smirking*

The aforementioned 5 Acts are almost as bad a lying to me.  I love unconditionally and sometimes people need a kick in the old keister with tough love.  What will never happen is stopping me from progressing in what needs to be taken care of.  I may have a small delay, but there is always a detour sign somewhere.  Hence another one of my recent status updates to Facebook:

“Sometimes the intentional negative actions of others can turn out to not only work in your favor, but end in a greater result than what was expected. God said he would turn the bad meant for you into good. In this instance it was an academic issue that He handled almost immediately. God is awesome and always got my back. #BlessedandFavored”

Listen up and read people.  I am a Christian and very much candid in expressing all aspects of my life with no qualms about offending ‘mean spirited, sensitive people’.  I pray for them and love them just as He would. *batting eyes* If you find that you are guilty of being mean and vindictive to provoke harm, yet sensitive and against reaping that which you have sown, then read the following for wisdom, practice humility, put that hand mirror up to your face, pray, and drive away the very thing that contributes to your poor character:

Proverbs 26: 23-28

23 – Smooth* words may hide a wicked heart,

just as pretty clay covers a clay pot.

24 – People may cover their hatred with pleasant words,

but they’re deceiving you.

25 – They pretend to be kind, but don’t believe them.

Their hearts are full of many evils.*

26 – While their hatred may be concealed by trickery,

their wrongdoing will be exposed in public.

27 – If you set a trap for others,

You will get caught in it yourself.

If you roll a boulder down on others,

it will crush you.

28 – A lying tongue hates its victims,

and flattering words can ruin.

What of the 5 acts mentioned above have people committed towards you or you towards them?  Do share!

Deuces,

San

Black Megachurch Preachers Offer Unrealistic Approaches to Black Teenage Pregnancy

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6 

While it would be great to simply tell Black teenage girls to not engage in sexual intercourse and they do as they are told, this wishful thinking is only useful for penning fiction.  Although Black megachurch preachers offer some resources at their churches to help pregnant teenager girls and to educate teenage girls about avoiding of teenage pregnancy, the dominant message they hear on television and radio from megachurch preachers is that God is going to punish them for fornication.  You can preach all you want to about abstinence from the pulpit, but you must have a strong understanding of the postmodern world outside of the confines of the church to truly reach these teenage girls.  It’s fine to preach and teach about fornication, but that preaching and teaching must reflect a critical understanding of American popular culture, especially Black popular culture.

Black popular culture is so pervasive and unavoidable that Black preachers cannot simply shout condemnation from the pulpit without responsibly speaking about it and offering serious and practical ways for Black teenage girls to rise above the negative influences and dimensions of it. Black teenage girls are bombarded with sexual images on television.  When these young girls watch programming on Music Television (MTV), Black Entertainment Television (BET), and other cable stations, they see how sex and sexual images have become such normative dimensions of American culture and our national public discourse.  Black megachurch preachers can try to act like young teenage girls should simply resist sexual temptations by praying and focusing on God, but this is simply unrealistic when they are not comprehensively educated about the sexual images they view on television.

When one considers that many adults are being heavily influenced by the sex and sexual images that they see on television, this should signal to Black megachurch preachers that they need to engage in more thorough analyses of this reality and offer more comprehensive resources for these adults’ children.  If many adults are not able to handle the sex and sexual images they view on television, then it’s not difficult to understand that many teenage girls are going to be highly influenced by the sex and sexual images they see on television.  It would not hurt megachurch preachers that much to take out a little time from their preaching and teaching about prosperity to help parents to better teach and advise their children about how to deal with many of the vexing sexual images they witness on television.  These megachurch preachers have enough money to provide teenage girls with constant resources, assistance, and guidance with dealing with the sexual pressures that are commonplace in the postmodern epoch.

In no way should this piece be perceived as an unfair attack on megachurch preachers.  However, it should be viewed as a call to action for them.  The bible informs us that those who have much are required to do much.  This is the reason why this piece singles out megachurch preachers, although preachers at smaller churches should be doing all they can too to help teenage girls to avoid teenage pregnancy.

It is the hope of this article that you will begin to have serious discourses about this topic in your churches, communities, schools, homes, and etc.

Deuces,       

Tony