You can’t take away what already is. When I find myself in the midst of justifying my friendship with the man that graces this blog with me, I am always baffled. Yes, Antonio and I exercise arrogance in our friendship because that is the type of love that we have for each other, but never have we withheld how we feel about the challenges we face, nor have we EVER masked the deeper issues we have with each other with an attack, passive aggressive statements, or public humiliation. We just state how we feel and continuously encourage each other’s endeavors. I adore when people try to steam roll our friendship because it inspires post like these. I have found that our friendship is something that people envy, loathe, and desire all together. Trying to glean an understanding of what is leaves most angry, upset, and confused in trying to understand why we passionately advocate for each other. Our friendship is an intimate association of familiarity and companionship (no we are not, nor have we, or will we ever sleep together).
One of the most important things that I will never force is a friendship. Relationships should be built and sustained naturally and as in any thing that is natural, you will have flaws and imperfections, but when embraced there is a beautiful evolution that can be everlasting like God’s love. The self problems of some individuals can and have spilled over into their personal friendships and a serious amount of self-reflection must occur before the loneliness of having no real, purposeful, loving friendships occur. Sadly, it is a direct reflection of weak minded people and I don’t contribute to things or people that take away from, instead of, adding to positive reinforcement. When my connection with Antonio and other friends rustles the feathers of some so much so that they have to seek the most minute tactics to bother me in some form, it makes me laugh from the inside out. Why? Because they couldn’t be more obvious *laughing*. If something about my character bothers anyone just that bad, they should know to feel free in speaking to me at any time. I will never try to out do others when it comes the core of my friendships with gift giving, titles, attire, career choices, or relationship. How does one pass judgment on a friendship that is powerful and loving, but be completely blind to the fact of the negative energy and hurtful actions that they have bestowed in the friendships that are claimed to be near and dear to their heart…just saying?
Antonio and I don’t have to censor our friendship PERIOD, however, the same cannot be said for others. I am receptive to constructive criticism, but I am disgusted by underlined messages: masking what one wants to say, but never stating it. I take delight knowing that I can affect many by just being truly with no veil, no mask, no co-signer who I am. Don’t be so upset about the closeness, genuineness, and passion of another’s friendship that YOU fail in adding building blocks or completely demolishing your own. Antonio and I will never conform to another’s blueprint of what our friendship is and will continually be: rare, layered, and candid. Our friendship is victorious and we celebrate it every day by just being. Simply because it’s what is. I want to leave you with this status that I borrowed from one of my Facebook friends, (K.A.):
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